We have this idea that teamwork is this beautiful thing where people always get along and nobody is ever mad at each other. That's bullshit. To do the right thing, you have to piss people off sometimes.
I really suggest you read the "No Asshole Rule". It goes into details about who's an asshole and how not to be one. And it's very clear about the idea that just because you disagree with people doesn't make you an asshole. A few relevant points:
1. Focus on the argument and not the person.
2. Argue like you're right, listen like you're wrong. In other words, really try to make sure that you really understand their point and that they understand your point.
Even if you do those things, you're still going to make people angry. Remember, being stubborn and argumentative is only a vice if you're wrong or you're doing it for your own personal enrichment rather than the good of the team. If it really is a simple case of you being right and them being wrong, and yet they're still arguing with you, is it really you that has a problem?
1. Sometimes the truth hurts.
2. People love to shoot the messenger.
We have this idea that teamwork is this beautiful thing where people always get along and nobody is ever mad at each other. That's bullshit. To do the right thing, you have to piss people off sometimes.
I really suggest you read the "No Asshole Rule". It goes into details about who's an asshole and how not to be one. And it's very clear about the idea that just because you disagree with people doesn't make you an asshole. A few relevant points:
1. Focus on the argument and not the person.
2. Argue like you're right, listen like you're wrong. In other words, really try to make sure that you really understand their point and that they understand your point.
Even if you do those things, you're still going to make people angry. Remember, being stubborn and argumentative is only a vice if you're wrong or you're doing it for your own personal enrichment rather than the good of the team. If it really is a simple case of you being right and them being wrong, and yet they're still arguing with you, is it really you that has a problem?